Dr. Boyce: How to go to College and NOT End Up in Prison – The Darrell Williams Rape Case

Added by bowatkin on July 25, 2012.

Here are some quick tips to men who want to go to college and NOT get convicted or rape:

1) Avoid alcohol if you can or at least minimize your consumption of it: People do things when they’re drunk that they might not do otherwise.  It’s quite possible that reduced inhibitions led to Williams or some of his friends feeling that they could touch women without their permission.  People are flirting and everyone’s just hanging out, so it’s also quite possible that the women allowed themselves to be touched.  When everyone’s been drinking, almost no one has very much credibility in the court of law, because decision-making is horrifically flawed.

2) Don’t sleep with women you don’t know very well:  If a woman wants to sleep with you on the first date or after a night at the club, understand that you are putting your entire life and future in the hands of a complete stranger.  Rather than jumping for joy at the chance to have meaningless s*x, you might want to jump out of bed and run for the hills.  If you don’t believe me, just ask Kobe Bryant, the married man who decided to sleep with a woman he barely knew with no condom back in 2004.  She almost sent him to prison, took all his money, ruined his family and stole everything he’d worked for over his entire life.  No s*x is good enough to be worth that kind of risk, and Kobe should never have been there in the first place.

3) No means no, no exceptions:  There was a time where men and women could play the cat and mouse game – she plays hard to get and you consistently chip away at the barriers in order to get her to do the thing that you and she both know that she wants to do anyway.  Whatever man, that c**p is for the birds.  In the age of political correctness, “no” always means “no.”  I don’t care if her eyes are saying “yes,” and she’s entirely naked, licking her lips with her legs spread out.  If she says “no,” then you need to say “no thanks.”  Real women don’t play stupid games that might destroy your life.

I hope that Darrell Williams can recover after this incident.  Groping is wrong, we know that.  But it’s hard to say that he deserves to go to prison with evidence this sketchy.  The key point to keep in mind, however, is that it’s not simply a matter of Williams being sent to prison for a crime he did not commit.  Rather, its a matter of us understanding how to avoid these kinds of situations in the first place.  College is not a place for drunken parties, court cases, and a pile of broken dreams.  It’s a place to get an education and create  bright future for yourself.  All that other stuff is just a pile of meaningless distractions.